I wrote this post when Clara was just under 5 weeks old, and had planned to type it up into a blog post soon after. In my sleep deprived state I forgot about it, until I recently came across it in an old notebook (almost 3 years later!). This is my account of 24 hours as a Mum to a 5 week old and a 3 year old… it involves sick in my bra, 12 breastfeeds in 18 hours and a good old dose of mum guilt.
3:45am – Woken up by Clara crying for a feed. I’ve had 3.5 hours of uninterrupted sleep which is something of a record, probably the most I’ve had since before she was born.
4:35am – Wake up suddenly, realising I’ve fallen asleep feeding Clara, who herself is now happily asleep in my arms. Put her back in her moses basket, hoping I won’t see her again until 7am.
Recently, MPs launched a new campaign to tackle loneliness, after research showed that over 9 million people in the UK say they feel lonely, and the effects of “chronic loneliness” can be as damaging to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
When we think of loneliness we often think of older people or those with no family. But in reality, you could be surrounded by loved ones and still feel lonely.
One time in your life when loneliness can strike is when you have a baby. You might have a house full of visitors in those first few weeks, and you spend every waking moment (and there are a lot of waking moments) with a mini version of yourself who needs constant attention. So how could you possibly feel alone when your life is really quite hectic? (more…)
A few weeks ago I had my first negative experience as a blogger. I wrote an article for another website about the positive side of sending your child to nursery. A couple of anonymous comments were left on the website by posters strongly opposed to sending children to nursery.
During pregnancy, much of the focus is on the mum-to-be. And that’s fair enough – I mean, no offence boys but your role pretty much extends to going out at 3am for supplies of the latest craving and telling your partner she definitely does not look fat. Except, it doesn’t. As amazing as pregnancy is, its really hard sometimes, and scary, and having someone around who can support you through it makes all the difference. This is especially true during labour. So here are some tips, from one woman who has been through it, for Dads-to-be.
From April 2015, working couples will be able to share up to 50 weeks of parental leave after having a baby.
The new regulations will give families more choice about how they spend the first year of their child’s life. And choice is the key word here.
It’s about not forcing families to follow a particular model and giving parents the opportunity to find a way of life that works for them. Not all families are the same, so a one-size-fits-all policy doesn’t work. (more…)