Morning sickness is often the most obvious symptom (or side effect) of pregnancy. But it’s also very misleading. 24/7 sickness would be more accurate.
Of course I am delighted to be pregnant and willing to take on any of the unpleasant side effects if it results in a healthy baby (so please no comments about how I should just be grateful – I know I’m incredibly lucky!), but it can be a struggle to stay positive when you have spent weeks carrying around a sick bucket like a handbag.
So I’ve been very quiet on the blog and social media lately. And that’s because I’ve spent the majority of the last few months feeling exhausted and always within grabbing distance of the sick bucket. But if ever there is an occasion where 24/7 vomming is a good thing, this is it.
Yep, I’m growing a human. A new addition which will make us a family of five. It’s been a rough start to an otherwise very exciting time of our lives, but I’m over the worst of the sickness now (touch wood) and feeling so much better so this is my first blog post in around 3 months!
I wrote this post when Clara was just under 5 weeks old, and had planned to type it up into a blog post soon after. In my sleep deprived state I forgot about it, until I recently came across it in an old notebook (almost 3 years later!). This is my account of 24 hours as a Mum to a 5 week old and a 3 year old… it involves sick in my bra, 12 breastfeeds in 18 hours and a good old dose of mum guilt.
3:45am – Woken up by Clara crying for a feed. I’ve had 3.5 hours of uninterrupted sleep which is something of a record, probably the most I’ve had since before she was born.
4:35am – Wake up suddenly, realising I’ve fallen asleep feeding Clara, who herself is now happily asleep in my arms. Put her back in her moses basket, hoping I won’t see her again until 7am.
During pregnancy, much of the focus is on the mum-to-be. And that’s fair enough – I mean, no offence boys but your role pretty much extends to going out at 3am for supplies of the latest craving and telling your partner she definitely does not look fat. Except, it doesn’t. As amazing as pregnancy is, its really hard sometimes, and scary, and having someone around who can support you through it makes all the difference. This is especially true during labour. So here are some tips, from one woman who has been through it, for Dads-to-be.
You’ve read the books. You’ve gone to the antenatal classes. You’ve politely listened to unsolicited advice from strangers at the bus stop. You’re prepared, right?
You have an idea what to expect during pregnancy and labour, and are pretty sure you will know how to change and bathe the baby. But what about you? After the birth you don’t just go back to being the pre-pregnancy you overnight. Aside from the fact that you have a teeny tiny human relying on you to fulfil their every need, your body – and mind – goes through some pretty weird things.