A few weeks ago I had my first negative experience as a blogger. I wrote an article for another website about the positive side of sending your child to nursery. A couple of anonymous comments were left on the website by posters strongly opposed to sending children to nursery.
They were quite harsh. Sure, I know that nursery isn’t for everyone but it’s a necessity for many. Being a stay at home parent isn’t always feasible, and those, including myself, who send our children to nursery shouldn’t be made to feel like terrible people for doing so. I’m no less of a mother and my kids are not going to be emotionally damaged for life because they went to nursery for a couple of days a week. Nor am I suggesting that nursery, or other childcare, is in any way better for children than spending time with their parents.
However, this post is not about defending my decision to leave my child with qualified and caring professionals while I work for a living. I just wanted to share my first negative experience of blogging.
It was bound to happen at some point. It’s an unwelcome milestone that most bloggers will experience. Some people will say I should expect this – putting myself and my life out there on the internet is bound to attract an element of criticism.
I’m an easy target – it’s all too easy to hide behind a computer screen, anonymously slating other people’s lives. Being so focused on your own opinion that you can’t see the other side of the argument. Or indeed that there is no argument to be had – just individuals going about their lives making different choices that work for them and their families.
I looked back at the Facebook post sharing the article, which had over 200 likes. Some comments were along the same theme as the comments on the post, but many were positive and some people said they felt reassured by my post. Others tagged friends who might find it helpful. Which is what I want from my writing – to inform, to entertain, to help. It certainly helped to put the negative comments into perspective, knowing that some people had taken something positive from the blog post.
Not everyone makes the same decisions; not everyone has a choice. Whether it’s work vs staying at home or bottle vs breast, not everything has to be an argument. I’m sure we are all guilty of judging other people because they do things differently to how we would do them – I know I am – but there’s a difference between silently disagreeing and openly making other people feel bad because they have made choices that actually have no effect on us whatsoever.
Sometimes we just need to take a step back and agree to disagree without it descending into some kind of Mum-off. I’ll continue to offer my opinion on what works for me and my family, but just because we do things one way, it doesn’t mean it’s the only way, or even the best way. It’s just our way. And that’s good enough for us.
Have you had any negative reactions to your blog posts or articles before? How do you deal with negative comments?
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